Maya Angelou

My month of May feature of inspiring woman is Maya Angelou. An poet, writer & civil rights activist. She is super popular.. so if need know more – just wiki/google – so much information about her.


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Her poems are famous & so are her books.  But for me what really makes me take an interest in her was when she shared her mother’s advice – “Ask for what you want,and be prepared to pay for what you get “

And why it strikes me so ? Because – it is one thing we ALWAYS forget when want something. We ask, demand, work hard & give our all to get what we want but sometimes we forget to be prepared for what we will get.

It is like

At 6, you can’t wait to go to school but you are not prepared with the home work for the next 10 years.

At 12, you can’t wait to be taller but you are not prepared with the chaotic hormonal change

At 21, you can’t wait to start work & put your college knowledge to work but you are not prepared that what you learn are only used < 5 % cause nothing matters more than diligence & persistence.

At 28, you can’t wait to live with your absolute love but you are not really (or ever will be) prepared for the other 50% of the weird habits

At 35, you can’t wait to have the baby out of your womb (cos 9 whole months of 100% attachment can really get to you) but you are not really prepared for the 300% commitment to the child for the rest of your life.


“budding” wannabe entrepreneurs cum professionals

After years of running a small business & having met countless customers, suppliers & professionals, I can’t help but be more annoyed with the professionals. To be fair, these professionals are great at their work, one can learn a lot from them, but when they thought I am their BFF (on their end) , they start to give me ideas on doing business. And most of the time, they seem to be wanting the ‘business’ owners to come up with money, time & work, while they – being the ‘professional’ just gives the idea (aka all talk).

The fact of the matter is, entrepreneurs are not just people who generate idea. They are successful because they execute them. They invest 150% of their time in their idea. I am not an entrepreneur precisely because I don’t invest 150% of my time, I only invest 50%. But that doesn’t mean that I am stupid ok?

I don’t get why a professional will think ‘introducing’ people to work for us will therefore be ‘super’ beneficial to expansion of our business. The nitty gritty of any business is not just about people, its also about processes, controls, budgets & sales. If there’s anything I learned from my 8 years, it will be – its all about SALES, SALES, SALES. Get the SALES (& payment!) before one should even bother with any capital investment.

So see – those successful entrepreneurs, they know its all about sales & also all about capital  – what they do is giving their all to their idea & execution. I have met many small scale entrepreneurs & they work at least 12 hours a day & give their all to their business.

Yes – that’s what sets professionals & entrepreneurs apart.

Unless the professional can get out of their ‘comfort’ zone of that monthly ‘clock-work’ salary,please – don’t go around ‘sharing’ your ideas & telling other ‘small’ business owners to try to sell your ‘product or services’. It really is very degrading to your profession.

I am not an entrepreneur or a professional. But I am very ‘lucky’ to have met both types. I guess it is because we are small businesses & professionals seems to think they know better because they are experts in their field. I have never met any entrepreneur who gives ideas for other small business owner because they know that running one is nothing compared to the amount of energy & time needed.



Lang Ping – Volleyball Extraordinaire

I am a fan of the volleyball game, maybe it’s because I played the game when I was in school although only for just 3 years.  And obviously, I followed the volleyball in the Olympics. And Rio 2016 Olympics final was a superb game. Both opposing teams were just as good but I guess this is where strategy & advice by the coach make that additional edge. So this month, I am going to feature about Lang Ping from China.

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Her accolades in volleyball are widely known – an Olympic champion player during the 1980s but really what make her even more famous was the fact that she became the first person, male or female, to have won gold at the Olympics both as a player and as a coach. Yes the first person not just first female.

Of course what I found particularly inspiring about her is the fact that she remain true to her love for the game regardless the fact that she is a China national & coaching the USA volleyball in the 2008 Olympics to beat the China team in the preliminaries despite public criticism (some call her traitor).

We don’t see many female athletics (champions/professionals) get really successful in coaching, maybe because females tend to take on the priority role of raising the family (which I might add is one of the most demanding role that has no expiry of contract whatsoever & no off days!) .  I would think she made it this far is because of her staying true to the love of her game (thus professional) regardless of her nationality. She ventured out of the comfort zone (she was famous in China & would have been a national coach anyway) to the US in search for her own personal development. While chasing after her own career growth, she also raised a child! So I am intrigued.

So yes, anything is possible – if you stay true to your abilities & continually learn / improve , sometimes even question the status quo (which seems very good) to test how far you can go to be even better.

Dr. Vandana Shiva

This month’s feature for inspiring women is Dr. Vandana Shiva. Although not of the first to speak out against genetic engineering & pest control in agriculture, her efforts in promoting her believes are widely known.


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She believes & actively promotes biodiversity (as nature intended) in agriculture is what will increase productivity, nutrition & farmer’s income.If one reads about how farmers get ‘trapped‘ into greed cycle of some corporations, one can’t help be disgusted by how sick human beings can be sometimes.

Most importantly she decides to actively promote this cause is the fact that she sees first hand how the hardworking farmers are so poor & believes that the root of the problem was how the ‘educated’ exploited not just the farmers but also the Earth by introducing unsustainable practices to the uneducated farmers.

Something for young girls to ponder about. The food that we eat everyday – planted, cultivated & grown by farmers – something that we take for granted but absolutely can’t live without – can you make a difference to their lives as they have contributed to yours everyday like what Dr. Vandana is doing?


my heroine for the day

Check out my heroine for the day (or for the month!) > female cyclist take on a catcalling man idiot

I never could understand why some men / males does these embarrassing behaviors to women. Do they actually think that women actually get ‘attracted’ by that behavior?

Moral of the story : It is good to be fit & strong! Go after idiots & ripped their car parts off!  Hahaha!



Robotics is inevitable but we are more than just people who need ‘jobs’

So a lot of famous intelligent folks are worried about the future where A.I will take over a lot of routine work of the human race. One latest article here with charts & all > read from link here  & 9 jobs that humans will lose to robots

While I understand the worry, because I do not wish for anyone to lose one’s job to a robot (and my job included!) but it is inevitable just because these jobs are not actually tapping the human’s potential at all. Humans are naturally demanding, selfish & careless – we can’t refute that. But humans are also inherently creative & resourceful – which robots aren’t.

Let’s look at the 3 traits which is not apparent in robots – Demanding – we want the best, value & fast. Selfishness – we demand for the best & fast for ourselves but we complain when we serve ‘demanding’ customers then Carelessness – we admit that we are bound to make mistakes but we are unforgiving to people commit mistakes that affects us directly. So what is wrong with giving the jobs that require swiftness, no error & best value to the one that can best perform it? On a economics & not waste of resources stand point – it is only right that we pass on this job to the robots just because they are better, more reliable & 100% predictable.

So what should the other 47% of the humans do ? Now that we do not have a ‘job’ ? What are we going to eat without money to buy food? How can I educate my child if I do not have a job to pay for the costly education? How can I pay for heat during the winter ? How do I pay for my yearly holidays that I need for my family?

{side note : The world population is declining so maybe that 47% will reduced to 30%  so let’s not be alarmed (I mean my family of 7 is only producing 1 offspring to date – that’s like a 86% reduction of # of people in just 1 family)}

You know what robots can’t replaced?

  1. A teacher that teaches us to appreciate the wonders of the world (not maths, alphabets or codes)
  2. A dreamer that writes out their stories for everyone to share
  3. A music/song writer that composes music & lyrics that resonates how we feel
  4. A painter that shows us that a picture is more than just drawings & colors
  5. A comedian that makes us laugh when we feel a little tired
  6. A conscientious human that recognizes what is wrong & takes actions to make laws to correct them
  7. A researcher that spends their time to find out more so we will all know more
  8. An actor that entertain us
  9. A cook / chef that not just makes us food but come up with new recipes / ways to make our food even more interesting
  10. An inventor that invent something that does not exist into existence.

I could go on & on but I know what we (humans) are not – we are not drivers (cos we are too careless & unpredictable) , we are not reporters (cos if it just reporting what is already happening, its a boring thing to do – why would humans enjoy that), we are not suitable to be soldiers (cos we are humans, we are not ‘born’ to fight one another, it is totally against our nature) & we are not suitable to be astronauts too (cos we should be learning how to love & take care of Earth vs looking for new planets to live).

So really – there are still plenty of ‘jobs’ going around that will finally be tapping the human’s species potential! with all the routine work being outsource / delegate to the robots – the world can now finally devote at least another 30% of the human population to something even better for the world!

Do I worry about my daughter’s future ? Yes of course! Tell me which parent who aren’t? Will I try to guide her to a profession that I think will be what the future world needs? I don’t know – as of now, I am still groping with how can I wake her up at 630am next year when she starts her primary 1!

But am I for robots in the future world – yes I am , just because despite a lot of people saying they got not enough money to survive – we can’t get people to fill up job vacancy that are seen to be too routine / menial in nature.

Maybe we just have to face up to the fact that humans want a job that can use their actual potential vs just their raw physical self. If robots do not come into existence, a big portion of the human race would probably go crazy because the human mind has developed to the point that it is time for them to realized their inner potential & when it is ignore, it is just not good.

So what will I want to do for my kid? I only hope I can help her find her own potential despite my authoritarian nature. The issue here would really be how can i curb my own opinions on her.




Ellen Degeneres

She is very famous of course. I do not think I need to even give a summary about her history at all or even need to find a picture of her to be posted here.

But why I am featuring her as my ‘inspiring’ female of the month is just because I would like you (Relm) to know that one can still be sarcastic yet funny but nice all at the same time.

How do one even get to deliver message that is not just honest & sarcastic but also funny without being offending? I often wonder is it because she is just born as such or she has managed to attain this ‘skill’ through some personal ‘enlightenment’?

Anyway, something for me to ponder about