“I’m Coming Home”

Here’s my prayer for you tonight … that this is what you will be humming to.. cos  that’s where the kingdom awaits.

……it’s always darkest before the dawn so you can doubt ….

tipping point

While I was contemplating (kind of in a dilemma too) on my decision,  it was made easier by a stupid act. Sometimes I wish when people want to lie or do some ‘hanky-panky’ stuff, they could do it with some finesse. It is downright insulting to think that we would not have seen through the act.

Incidentally – ‘the tipping point’ was also one of the book that i thot is definitely worth reading. It states a lot of simple actions or events that tip towards or away from the outcomes.

I never would have thought that I would get to experience it for myself. And I might say it is well worth the experience. Definitely helped me in making a decision & helping me see what one is really worth.

Great Expectations

Finn: What’s it like not to feel anything?
Estella: Let’s say there was a little girl, and from the time she could understand, she was taught to fear… let’s say she was taught to fear daylight. She was taught that it was her enemy, that it would hurt her. And then one sunny day, you ask her to go outside and play and she won’t. You can’t be angry at her can you?
Finn: I knew that little girl and I saw the light in her eyes, and no matter what you say or do, that’s still what I see.
Estella: We are who we are. People don’t change.

Excerpts from Great Expectations

Sometimes it is odd how I am being accused of indifference to celebrating birthdays, anniversaries or whatsoever ‘commercial induced’ events when the very person who accused me of it is so indifferent in treating the supposed close one like well.. a close one!  We are who we are… people don’t change. It is true. So I guess we have to accept it.

That said, I am amazed by the capacity of forgiveness or rather the acceptance level that she has.  She must have really really loved him. I wonder what will my reaction be if it were me… hmm.. I most probably will keep quiet but my actions afterwards will be louder with an impact.  But then again – who am I to be upset when she is not & a very willing party to receive such substandard treatment.

 

 

 

The blaming game

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” Wayne Dyer quotes

I do not know who this Wayne is but he is right. I for one is not entirely not guilty of it but of late, there really isn’t much time to think much of this blaming thing as the time was put to good use with actions & thinking of solutions.

We do not speak of our troubles does not mean that we do not face troubles. We do not voice our unhappiness does not mean we are happy. We don’t voice what we feel does not mean that we do not feel.

We do not quit, blame or turn away when the trouble is at bay.  We face it.

We do not quit, blame or turn away when there’s unhappiness. We work on it.

We do not quit, blame or turn away when we feel short changed or sad. We accept it.

So let’s stop this blaming game on you shoulda’ or we shoulda’ … how about I shoulda’ instead?

unspoken

Misunderstood. That’s what you get when some things are left unspoken.  And that’s the difficult truth. We tend to assume that things that are unspoken of are therefore non-existent. Most do not realized that sometimes people choose to keep quiet because they rather not waste their breath or effort.

Past – unspoken because it is sometimes best left unspoken

Present – unspoken because it is best use for self reflection

Future – unspoken because no one can predict the future

unspoken but it is there

the beautiful acts of siblings rivalry

What can I say? My sisters & me are always at our worst manners towards each other. We can never be tolerant, be helpful or be just plain ‘nice’ to each other. We tend to exaggerate each other’s fault & some times we inflict pain. Yet through it all – we are never hurt or our love for each other ever wavered.  I guess that’s what are siblings for – to help us to see ourselves better, take criticisms without feeling hated, accepting the ‘worst of siblings’ that we have got & that whatever it is – these siblings will be there for you even at your worst.  What can I say? I think I am extremely blessed with these beautiful acts of siblings rivalry!

When things gotta be left unsaid or to be civil or ‘positive’ among siblings or family, you just know something is wrong. Totally wrong. Because that’s how we treat people we don’t care for, no feelings for & for strangers.

I wish I can tell you this my dear father. I lose all manners with I’m with my older sisters, when they trouble me – I grumble & sometimes raised my voice, I even criticized. Yet – you are asking me to ‘understand’ & be nice to a sister’s actions that is highly questionable of a supposed ‘highly intelligent’ graduate. Ok.. whatever – I do not care anymore. You are right & I am wrong. I can live with that cos it does not matter to me a.n.y.m.o.r.e.

to refrain or not

Should one refrain from telling the truth just because the truth will create more discord?

Should one refrain from feeling free at own’s home because it will make the other unhappy?

Should one refrain from stating one’s discontent just to avoid argument even though it means less communication?

Should one refrain from intolerance because of the supposed ‘respect’?

Buddha quotes:

“You should respect each other and refrain from disputes; you should not, like water and oil, repel each other, but should, like milk and water, mingle together.”

So.. what Buddha means is that we should refrain from disputes & just try to get along even if either side hates it. Or in just plain term – Life Sucks.. Live with it ..

the biased beings

As I watch this clip done by these young students,  I felt proud & shameful at the same time.  Proud that there are some teens that actually realized how careless & selfish humans can be with the elders but shameful that the human adults are so biased in our behavior. The young parents (that are officially adults) take care of their babies or toddlers like gold.. arrangements of day care, taking the child out for play, keeping tabs on the child while they are out cause they know the child is just too young to know the way home & expect nothing in return.. yet when it comes to the older ones, it is the total opposite & in fact expected MORE from them.

I am no angel or paragon of virtue nor am I criticizing others, but I do hope that I will not forget to treat the elders when the unwanted catches up with them – with the same care that I would do for a helpless child.

the irrefutable fact

“If we weren’t still hiring great people and pushing ahead at full speed, it would be easy to fall behind and become a mediocre company.” Bill Gates quotes

It is hard to accept but it is an irrefutable fact – a company can only excel when they have the good people driving it.  And here we are – wondering why large corporations lasts so long & keep getting better – when the simplest answer is just only hiring the best person there is to drive the company.

So here I am – made yet another misjudgment – that a ‘mature’ worker that’s got left out in the ‘cold’ whom may not have excellent credentials but with years of experience may just be able to work well – is a total error.

And yet another mistake – to think that I have even ‘ plan ‘ to be less demanding – when demanding for work to be done right & efficient is only a basic expectation – so how could I even be ‘less’ demanding for that?

As Colin Powell said- Have a VISION, Be Demanding !

cause & more caused

Materialism flourished, so does poverty

Self indulgence proliferates, so does cruelty

Protectionism unchecked, so does greediness

Unfairness abound, so does unhappiness

Corruptions expands, so does crimes

Crackdowns burgeoned, so does freedom fighters